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Friday, January 18, 2013

Instructional Control: Who's The Boss?






Instructional control is an ABA term that describes how to establish a paired, authoritative relationship. Instructional control is a concept that excellent ABA therapists or professionals are aware of, and understand how to establish. I don’t come across many parents who understand the need for instructional control or how to maintain it, so this post is targeted to parents.
 If you are fine with your 3 year old running the house, then this post isn’t for you. However, if you want to know how your 3 year old began running the house, and how to stop that, then read on. :-)

*NOTE: Some non-ABA treatments for Autism focus on child-led, child initiated therapy, and minimize or eliminate the step of the therapist establishing instructional control. For therapists or parents who support or engage in those treatment techniques, this post probably won’t be helpful for you.




“Instructional control” probably sounds like a cold, intimidating term that is only applicable to therapists or professionals. I would disagree with that. If more parents knew what instructional control was and how to get it, you would save yourself much stress and conflict in your home. As a parent, you teach your child everyday and you give demands to your child throughout each day. Proper instructional control is what motivates them to listen to you, to be compliant, and to do what you ask.

Many parents have asked me with a surprised or amazed face, “How did you get my child to do _____?” or parents will state to me that their child will listen to the therapist, but not to them. Why is that? Why will the child do something for me, but not for the parent? There are a few reasons for this, but a primary reason is lack of instructional control.


So what exactly is instructional control? How do you get it? How do you lose it? How do you know if it’s lacking in your home?

The best way I can explain instructional control is to say in a situation lacking instructional control, the child is the BOSS. They are in charge, and they call the shots.
 Kids don’t just wake up one day and start running the house. That is a misconception. Inappropriate behaviors were reinforced, consequences were not delivered, and over time the child learned that they are in charge.

Based on my experiences, these are the top errors I see parents make that cause them to lose (or never gain) instructional control:
  • Arguing/debating with children
  • Bargaining/compromising with children
  • Parents not on the same page
  • Giving attention to poor/inappropriate/undesirable behaviors
  • Allowing aggression to happen...in any form ( Yes, your toddler “playfully” slapping you as she cries is still aggression)
  • Avoiding giving demands to avoid problem behaviors
  • No structure or order in the home
  • Making endless and empty threats, always “promising” to punish but never actually doing it
  • Underestimating the child/rationalizing problem behaviors (“I know she just bit me, but she’s really tired”)
  • Problem with seeing the child unhappy/ Child must always like you

If you see one, or two, or several things on that list that you do regularly, don’t feel bad. I have been inside of enough homes to know that many parents don’t understand how the errors listed above undermine their authority and lead to a lack of instructional control.

When I first start working with a child (after successful Pairing) I'm going to begin establishing the relationship that the child and I will have.
I can’t properly teach a child who doesn’t listen to what I say or refuses to do things I tell them to do. Establishing instructional control isn’t difficult, but it does require a certain mind-set. Sometimes parents have difficulty being firm with their children, and aren’t comfortable being a disciplinarian. When I am working with a child I am the giver of reinforcers, I am “that fun lady who shows up and plays with me”, I am giving undivided attention to the child, and I am always modifying my curriculum to keep them successful. BUT, I am also swift to provide consequences, I create structure and order, and I follow through with everything I say.
 Despite what some may think, ABA isn’t about being mean, harsh, or cold to children. If I never showed compassion, love, or kindness to my kiddos they would never want to work with me (and understandably so).

About 80% of the things I do with a new client serve the purpose of establishing instructional control. Even simple actions can help me communicate to the child that they are not in control, they do not run the session, and their behaviors have consequences. Here are a few examples of things I intentionally do with new clients in order to establish instructional control right from the start:

  • Limit access to reinforcers- The child should not have free access to highly reinforcing items. If they do, what is their motivation to complete tasks or comply?The child should be clearly taught "I do ____, I get _____". Making reinforcers contingent upon target behaviors will help you gain instructional control.
  • Present a united front with the adults in the home- For me this means that I present myself as being on the same team as the parents. If Dad says the child must wear mittens to go outside, then I help enforce that. If I say that the child can’t watch TV while I am in the home for a session, the parents help enforce that. To parents I would say: Do all the adults in the home present themselves as a united team? Does Mom back up Dad, and Dad back up Mom?
  • Create a schedule/routine and stick to it- Decide how you want the day to flow, and fill the child's day with activities. Engage in the activities with the child, as much as you can. Happy kiddos who are kept busy and engaged dont tend to exhibit problem behaviors.
  • Provide a stark contrast between “Good Job!” and “Let’s Try That Again”- When my kiddos do what I need them to do, I immediately reinforce with an animated tone of voice and facial expression. When they do not do what I need them to do, my tone of voice changes, my facial expression changes, and I do not provide reinforcement. If your child was only responding to your face or tone of voice, would they know when they have done the right thing?
  • Always be prepared before giving any demand- I don’t give any demand to one of my kiddos that, if they fail to comply, I cant follow through with. If I am writing data and the child bolts out of the room, I wont continue to write as I yell out “Come back and sit down”. I will stop writing, get up, and go get the child. Stop and prepare yourself before giving any demand, no matter how small. Treat every demand you give like an opportunity to reinforce, or provide a consequence (because it is).
  • Create opportunities to address problem behaviors- If a parent tells me about a behavioral trigger, I'm not going to avoid it. I cant correct a behavior I never see. If a parent tells me that turning off the TV causes a tantrum, then I'm going to sit down with the child to watch TV and then abruptly turn the TV off. When the tantrum occurs, I now have an opportunity to teach the child a replacement behavior. Parents, don’t get in the habit of avoiding behavioral triggers to prevent problem behaviors. That isn’t prevention, its avoidance.
  • Offer more choices combined with follow through-  You’d be surprised how rare it is for a special needs child to be offered choices. All day long they have a variety of people telling them where to sit, to be quiet, to walk over there, etc. When dealing with defiant children I will often offer a choice between activities instead of giving a demand. For example, instead of saying “Clean up the toys” I will say “Do you want to clean up the dolls or the puzzle”. I came up with the choices, but offering them still makes the child feel a degree of control. An important, but often forgotten, component of choice making is what happens if the child doesn’t choose. Then you choose. You decide what the child will do, and use prompting to get them to complete the task.


*Quick Tip: A great and helpful resource to fully understand instructional control: 7 Steps to Instructional Control


8 comments:

  1. Thank you for this excellent post. Instructional control is so important, yet it has such a pejorative name. You did a great job explaining what it is and isn't.

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    1. Thank you! Its a hope of mine that more parents will understand what instructional control is, and how to gain it.

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  2. I am working on following through, and not avoiding behavior triggers. My son's therapist thinks better instructional control will help him listen to me a little more. I have been letting him get by in public to avoid a scene, so now I am having some scenes. But I think he will figure out his old escape behaviors aren't going to keep working.

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    1. Your therapist is correct, establishing instructional control (basically, demonstrating that your consequences are consistent and immediate) will help you control problem behavior.

      It isn't unusual to have to "ride the wave" of some behavioral outbursts in the beginning, this is just your sons way of seeing if you really will follow through or not. What will help him figure out you mean business is if you clearly state your expectations and then immediately provide consequences, no matter where you are or who is present. Good luck!

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  3. Hello Tameika! First off I just want to thank you for creating this blog because I use it as a reference constantly. You are a true inspiration and I have learned more from this blog than from the training I received. I work with a sixth grade boy that is non-verbal and he has been getting more aggressive with me as time goes on. I read your post about pairing which was helpful but it seems that whenever I walk in the room he gets an expression of annoyance and whenever I make a request he refuses and tests me. He is a very big kid as uses his size to his advantage and there are times he will strike the staff when he protests. I am becoming a little discouraged. Any suggestions?

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    1. Hi and thanks for commenting :-)

      I'm glad the pairing post was helpful to you, since I put that on the blog I have gotten feedback from many professionals who had never heard of pairing, so I'm happy to spread the word!

      Have you spoken to the supervisor on the case about these issues?
      Its very concerning that the problem behavior is increasing, not going down. If he already has a behavior plan it likely needs to be revised, and if not a Functional Behavior Assessment needs to be conducted, to both reduce the problem behavior and teach a replacement behavior.

      Good luck to you,

      Tameika

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  4. Thank you for the suggestions Tameika! You are so helpful. By the way I love your book 101 Ways To Do ABA which is how I discovered your blog. Keep up the great work. It inspires and reaches so many individuals like myself.

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    1. Thank you so much, I can really tell you are passionate about the field!

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