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Time for a real moment. If you don't want a real moment, feel free to stop reading this QOTD now.
You may be an ABA professional, a teacher of students on the Spectrum, or a parent raising an ASD child. On a regular basis you pour your time, energy, and talent into using ABA to bring about behavior change. I hope the reason you are "in this" is not for the applause. .....because sometimes that applause just isn't coming.
I have worked with (and been guilty of being!) individuals who NEED the "applause". For example, needing a family to recognize you going above and beyond to crank out a report with only 3 days notice, so they can have it for an IEP meeting. Or needing the classroom teacher you are collaborating with to notice how respectful and considerate of her time that you are, and respond accordingly. Or needing your BCBA supervisor to notice how you always show up to meetings a little bit early, and always volunteer for the cases no one else wants to take. Who doesn't enjoy some gratitude, right? A little appreciation just feels nice!
There is nothing wrong with liking appreciation, or enjoying how gratitude or recognition feels. But, as someone who has been in this field for a few days (this is sarcasm) I would be lying if I said you will always get it. You could be excellent at your job, wonderful with your clients, and really bring something valuable to the table, and you may not be working with people who will say this to you, or even show you with their actions.
You may not receive gratitude from your:
- Client's Family
While it would be awesome-sauce if I always worked with super appreciative families, school staff, and ABA staff, the reality is I don't. I learned a long time ago to not need the "applause" in order to perform my job.
Sometimes, you have to let the quality of your work and the effectiveness of your treatment give you the "Thank You!" that you need.
"Don't allow applause, approval, or attention to determine the volume or quality of your work."
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