Self-help
skills are those functional skills or tasks that build independence,
self esteem, and increase the likelihood that a child will be successful across
multiple environments. I think teaching self help skills is incredibly
important, yet I often see these programs being skipped or left out of a
treatment plan.
For parents of
a child with Autism, they are typically very used to helping their child be
successful. From an early age Mom or Dad have been prompting their child (even
if they don’t know the term “prompting”, they have probably been doing it
for years), modifying the environment to help their child, calming emotional
outbursts/being a safe haven, etc. So by the time you meet a family, the
parents have probably fallen into a habit of doing whatever they can to help their
child get through each day. Problems can arise when this loving and caring help
goes on for too long, across too many environments, and hinders development.
Here is a very typical experience for me: During intake, I ask parents lots of questions about what their child can and cannot do. When I get to self help skills (can your child independently brush teeth, bathe, prepare a snack, etc) I usually hear "I dont know...I'm not sure...I do it for him". That is a big red flag for me that the child has little to no independence skills.
Here is a very typical experience for me: During intake, I ask parents lots of questions about what their child can and cannot do. When I get to self help skills (can your child independently brush teeth, bathe, prepare a snack, etc) I usually hear "I dont know...I'm not sure...I do it for him". That is a big red flag for me that the child has little to no independence skills.
Part of
typical childhood development includes a separation from Mom and Dad and
learning to care for yourself, learning to calm yourself, and problem solving,
e.g. “I’m in a new public setting and I have to use the bathroom. What do I
do?” Emotionally, it can be difficult for a parent to start to separate from a
special needs child, and to begin teaching the child skills that will lead to
independence. It can be difficult for parents to let their “baby” start
learning big girl/big boy skills. So understand that even if you have sound and
reasonable reasons for wanting to teach self-help skills to a client, the
parents may push back a little bit.
When first
meeting a new client, problem behaviors and lack of language can overshadow any
other goals. Parents usually express frustration and fear over their child’s
lack of communication, or aggressive outbursts occurring multiple times a day.
As the professional, even if the parent does not express a concern about
self-help skills you should be the one to address it.
Don’t think
teaching self-help skills is that big of a deal? If a child is lacking
self-help skills they can have a developmental age that is years below their
chronological age. Just think about a 9 year old who yells “Wipe me!” from the
bathroom, because he still can’t wipe himself after bowel movements. Or a 4
year old who is still spoon fed by Mom. Or an 11 year old who cannot button or
zip up his clothing.
The VB-MAPP,
Vineland, and ABLLS-R assessments all include some type of self-help/adaptive
skill domain. This is an important area of teaching; don’t skip it.
The first step
in determining self-help deficits will be the assessment process, and
observation. I wouldn’t advise just asking the parents about self-help skills,
because parents can over or under estimate the independence level of their
child. Always observe the child in the natural environment to make sure the
information you were given about their level of independence was correct.
Think about
self-help skills that are developmentally appropriate, will make the child more
successful in social settings or across environments (the biggest example of
this is Toilet Training), and any self-help deficits that are placing
undue burden on the parents. For example, do the parents have to bathe their 13
year old son each night because he is incapable of taking a bath? If so, that
is a self-help deficit that should be targeted for intervention. Think about
how much it will help that family, and empower that child, if he can start to
bathe himself.
If you still
are doubting the importance of self-help skills, here is my advice for you:
Spend some time with a typically developing toddler. Toddlers are standing
right in the gap of “babydom” and being a big girl/big boy. They typically want to do things independently even
if they don’t have the skill yet. They don’t want you to pour their cereal or
pick them up and put them on the couch: they
want to do it by themselves. Compare a typical toddler to the child or
client you care for, and prepare to be amazed at the difference in independence.
Just because a child has Autism does not mean they don’t need to learn independence.
I’m not going to wipe the nose of a typically developing 3 year old, and I’m
not going to wipe the nose of a 7 year old client just because he has Autism.
Hand him a tissue, and tell him to blow! :-)
I have never
met a parent who told me their goal for their child was to be as dependent as
possible. So help these kiddos be more independent, by deciding today to stop
doing things for them that they can do themselves.
Self-Help
Skills Checklist
- Dressing Skills (tying shoes, putting on shirt, matching tops to pants, etc)
- Bathing Skills (washes face, uses soap, dries with towel, etc)
- Grooming Skills (uses comb or brush, brushes teeth, can apply Chapstick, etc)
- Feeding Skills (uses utensils, sucks using a straw, chews with mouth closed, etc)
- Toileting Skills (wipes after BM’s, stays dry through the night, requests toilet if in a new public setting)
- Independence/Autonomy Skills (chores, making choices, polite refusal, e.g. "No Thanks")
